너라면 좋겠다.

太阳升起的时候，那个等你的人，觉得自己在那一刻，已经死了。

It is human nature to think wisely and act in an absurd fashion.

“

—	Anatole France

Spontaneity <3

happythings:

thesecretpassageway:

Today, I was driving with my windows down and left arm extended out to feel the breeze. A car coming the other direction was making a left turn as I was coming through the stoplight towards them. Next thing I knew, the guy swerved uncomfortably close to me, extended his arm, and gave me a high five as we drove by. At first I was startled, then overcome with love for this boy. MLIA.

(via ache)

The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.

“

—	Henri Nouwen (Submitted by christinakim) (via quote-book)

深夜里无法坚强

害怕情绪开始沉淀的夜晚。

内心世界的欲望，总是会莫名地清晰起来。

喜欢看着神秘无声的陋巷与景色。想和它们合二为一。

仿佛自己本来就是寂静的一条街、沉默的一盏路灯、被黑暗笼罩的一栋大楼。

我的灵魂，偶尔想离开这虚壳。

白天里，理智是胜者、是权威。

到了夜晚，情绪垄断称霸。

思念让人窒息，独处加深寂寞感，决心会动摇。

我是我在夜里流的眼泪。

Conclusion

近几天，有个问题一直在脑中盘旋着：
这世上，到底什么东西是属于自己的？
连一段爱情，都并不完全属于自己。
因为感情终究是需要两个人一起去培养、灌溉的。

但是知识是属于自己的。
The skills and knowledge that I picked up. My reflections on daily living. My values and principles. Philosophy towards life. All of these things belong solely to myself. I can utilize them and become a better person.

Yeah, a better person void of vulnerable emotions.
I am not going to be cold. I just don’t want to trust.
Being the easily impressed and moved person that I am, I will continue to feel the beauty of nature, the sadness of tragedy, the anger at unfair treatment, the excitement of being starstruck.
But I will not serve myself in a platter for someone to hurt me.

Call me a coward. I simply cannot face up to emotions when it involves another person.
I don’t want to be trapped in such vulnerable circumstances.
It’s almost like parading around naked. Openly inviting anyone to come into my heart, let them mess it up and leave without consequences. It happened before, and I struggled terribly to let it go. It was painful, I felt pathetic and my heart did not belong to myself. It was constantly at war with my brain. I was torn, and it wasn’t even a real relationship.

I will not allow that anymore. No way in hell.

I don’t want something irrational or unreliable.
It hurts too much when I have to deal with something that I cannot control.
Love can be blissful and fun, but not all the time.
Just consider the risk of getting my heart broken into pieces.
(I will never recover from it.)
How could I - even for one second - think the unfathomable for myself?

我需要安全感。
如果有人能给我安全感，我会把整颗心交给他。
我可以是世界上最服从最听话的情人。
不过１００％的安全感．．．　
找到这样的人的机率有多大？
我放弃了，好不？我不敢去奢望，去妄想。

There are expectations in a relationship.
I do not want to expect things from anyone.
Expecting things involves trust.
Why should I trust someone when it comes at the price of occasional disappointment? What do I get out of it?
I will never learn to love.
It is a stake, a gamble. It involves taking a chance.
A chance in believing that you can entrust your life to someone else besides yourself.

But no. I simply cannot afford to pay for it should it fail to work out at the end.
I would rather spare myself the misery right from the start.

所以，不。我不陷入这烫滚水。
心房的门，仍旧是紧紧闭上的。

In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.

“

—	Laurence Sterne (via quote-book)

Love isn’t a decision. It’s a feeling. If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simpler, but much less magical.

“

—	Trey Parker and Matt Stone (via quote-book)

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love & affection than you are yourself, & that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.

“

—	Buddha (via littlehappythings) (via happythings)

Very true!

双子巨蟹座：神奇的交界（6月19-6月24）

在这个“神奇的交界”出生的人，很容易对浪漫、灵性的事物深深着迷，所以这型的人经常会将他们的才智、精力发挥在具有较高心灵层次的活动上，诸如家庭、宗教、哲学艺术、政治或社会等等。由于这型的人可以全心全力投注在上述活动中，因此他们常给人温和、不露锋芒的谦虚印象。无论从事何种行业，都属于没没无闻、努力耕耘的一群。但是在年纪渐长、性格成熟后，他们会变得比较积极果敢，这才逐渐展露头角。

双子巨蟹的人很容易受到诱惑，但不论是有意或无心，也很容易迷惑别人。这型的人具有天真无邪、甜美迷人的魅力，但应小心，别受骗了。双子巨蟹的人通常都有自我防卫的警觉性，但个性温和的他们一碰到感性的情境，还是会不自觉地降低警戒线，让恶人有可乘之机。企图心比较强的双子巨蟹就没这么容易上当了，只要他们立定目标，便会奋力追求，任何事情都不能加以阻碍，即使伤害了别人，他们也在所不惜。

建议：当你运用神奇的魅力待人处世时，多加点关怀在里面。对自己的要求可能要稍微严格一点。坚守自己的目标，不要随便放弃或改变心意。别盲目沉迷于某样事物，而一股脑地栽进去，如此将很难再找回自己。避免让压抑的情感或强烈的负面情绪左右你的思考和行为。

happythings:

threeseptembersandajanuary:(via madeoutwithanartist)

周杰伦 - 发如雪

真的好喜欢这首歌

听的时候总忍不住想流泪

方文山，你是才子，我仰慕你

你写出来的歌词完全就是我们心灵的写照

一生中最渴望的东西

毕生追求的理想

一段刻骨铭心的爱情

但有些人就算花了一辈子

都未必能得到它

不交出真心，如何换来真心

但交出真心后，你却注定是个输家、注定受到伤害…

[巨蟹座原创]学会放弃不该爱的人!

世界上有两件事是永远也勉强不了的，小时候是学习的兴趣，长大了，是爱情。 ——- 这，是一面镜子，勇敢放弃，勇敢面对，勇敢重新开始。

当他不爱你的时候，无论过去他是否爱过后来却忘了，又或者从未爱过，总之，当你无法成为他心里的那个人的时候，他的心便不会记得你，更不会在乎你。就算他知道你深爱他，偶尔也能感觉得到你的关心，但他宁可装作是不知道。不爱了的那个人永远是先放得开的，所以，请你也不要折磨自己，痛苦太长时间。要学会自然，如果你选择坚强接受，你们的结束会被认为是没有缘分，也许在他的心里，还会留下些许的遗憾；可是如果你不够理智，总是想做一些事情挽回这段已经不可能存在的爱情，那么你们的结束只能被他看成是性格不合。

当他不爱你的时候，请不要在你不开心，或者是遇到麻烦而彷徨的时候去打搅他。他那儿绝对不是你此刻应该的去处。也许他会在接到你的电话的时候，淡淡地安慰你几句，并且说衷心祝福你快乐，却也仅此而已。当他不爱你的时候，你的爱，你的人，就会显得廉价许多。你占了下风，这是人的本性。也许你会再想要一点什么，于是说：“我们见一面吧，我们可以一起吃顿饭吗？”如果你以为吃顿饭，见一面就能挽回你失去的爱情，那么你就太错了，太傻了。而他心里也肯定很烦躁了。他会说：“我现在有点事情，等有机会吧。晚点的时候你再给我电话吧，或者我给你电话也可以。”而你这时千万不要当真，他只是找了个不是很高明的理由来搪塞你。请，不要真的去等，不要骗自己，更没有必要伤心。他的忙碌不会因为你的等待而终止。生活中很多事情对于他来说都是很重要的，而对于他来说最无所谓的就是逝去的爱情了。